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Oh, I know there must be some out there – somewhere.  One may be just around the corner but I have come across plenty of bad ones.  Not that I’m looking but it’s difficult not to see the drama even if only as a bystander.   I know there are plenty out there and I have known many that were diamonds – cut precise with all the attributes of quality that defines a good man.     If you have a good man – then treat him good.  Allow your man to reach his full potential by praising his many wonderful qualities – by supporting his decisions – by loving him when he’s at his lowest point in life.   You need to strive to be his friend; comforter, teacher and lover – a man won’t stray from a good woman and if he does it wasn’t meant to be.

We bash our men, ridicule and humiliate them.   We tear them down and then we wonder where are they?   Hello! Even a good man can turn bad when he has been torn to fragments.    You may be one of those good women that turned bad after dealing with so many bad men.   That’s life and dreams are only as real as we strive to make them.  

We as women help to build good men – we are the bearers of their birth.   Good men aren’t just born into this world, but they grow into good men by having nurturing loving  mothers.   So remember women play a major role in building good men.  If you have sons – teach them to treat a woman like a diamond by setting an example.   A male that lives in a home riddled with turmoil – witnessing  his mother berate his father ,becomes defensive and tackles each woman he meets as if he was on a football field.  We must take responsibility of  our sons growth by helping to define all the many qualities that women seek in a strong male. 

 Is a good man hard to find – I think not.    There is a woman waiting to catch what you throw away.    You think he’s trash, well it’s possible that she has the erudition  to make that chip of a diamond become a karat.

Life is a series of roads, some with endings and some that are continuous – it comes down to knowing which road to travel. And in the event you happen to take the wrong road – understand detours are there for a reason – they serve as a lesson, smart enough you won’t travel the wrong road again.

In many instances we wonder why life presents too many challenges?  We ask ourselves why me and I say why not you?  Many years ago my son became ill.  I wasn’t prepared for it, but who ever is.  It was unexpected and I comtemplated and pondered why did it happen to my son?   I had to analyze my life and yes, I had to accept his fate, his suffering made me view life with a different perspective.  Everything I had  taken for granted – I came to view as a privillege.  It was a gift to be free from illness – it was a gift to wake each day and it was a gift to have the strenght to stand by my son when many people disappeared from our lives.  There were many lessons to be learned from his illness.  God gave me the serenity to understand and the wisdom to know that I could not make any radical changes.  I was wise enough not to blame and wise enough not to harbor anger and resentment.

Yes, I traveled many roads over the years – some horrific detours and some that were comforting, but from the pain I grew into a better person.  I have a greater appreciation for life.  I see beauty in a simple sunset and a smile from a stranger or a simple greeting makes me happy that I’m here.   Material gains can never be as satifying as acceptance and love.

I learned from the many roads I traveled and though the pain and suffering of feeling isolated – I have grown strong.  I have learned the gift of humility and patience.  I have learned that if you love someone there should never be any constraints.  I have learned that the homeless bum, it still a human being with the same emotions as the drug addicted person.  I have learned and because I have mastered so much over the last few years – that many of those roads I have traveled were not a  one way street, but lead me to highways of life.

Wishing you Peace and Happiness

Serenity XOXO

A caterpillar is ugly but a metamorphosis takes place and then it becomes a spectacular creature that flies without boundaries. Beauty is much more than perception – beauty is experiencing our five senses to become greater than just a face that fades with time. When we embrace the ability to change we too can become …as beautiful as the butterfly and not ever be inhibited by the world.

We shy away from change, run from change, frown from change because many of us are frightened of the prospect of making changes in our life.  Change can be perceived as good or in many instances we view change as  something bad.   If we are to ever prosper in life we must be ready to embrace change and welcome it.  To change is simply learning to do something better.  It could be that bad relationship or a dead-end job.  Sampling the same food or performing the same boring routine.    Open up your mind to the possibility that you can become just as stunning and free as the butterfly.

Serenity XOXO

We rush though each day – waiting for the weekend to come – however do we ever comtemplate that it’s our time. Life should be an awarding adventure as we embrace each moment in time. Don’t dare say I can’t wait until the weekend – say instead what can I do today to seek fulfillment. I don’t look at the clock instead I try to cram as many things possible into each passing day. I thank the supreme being for allowing me to wake to a new day. I look at the world with amazement and at myself for being blessed to be alive. No, I refuse to rush against the clock or play mind games to speed up time, because life is too short not to appreciate the beauty of my existence in this world.

Serenity XOXO