What is anger but a displaced emotion roaming and searching for a dark place to wait before it pounces and strikes. Anger has many faces – it shields its face with a veil.
Rip the veil away from anger and you will discover a terrified individual that has unsurmountable pain and needs to mirror their pain to anyone. Don’t allow anger in your circle.
Why are we so fearful of aging, terrified by the first signs of wrinkles and sagging skin, that we dread looking at our reflection in the mirror? Why are we so obsessed with looking young that some of us buy into the hype of being transformed into someone else. We see advertisements that make us question our physical appearance. Just because we our becoming older does not imply we are not attractive anymore.
It’s disheartening that these advertisement campaigns project a picture that is very bias and they offer many options to consider. The ads offer body sculpting; breast implants, face lifts, cosmetic surgery- anything you desire can be purchased and now financing is readily available.
Aging is another chapter in our lives, an opportunity to shine. “Our winkles are medals of our passage.” And this should be perceived as a wonderful opportunity of maturity and beauty. After all contrary to what some may say, things that are old are greatly sought after for their beautiful history and value. A bottle of Chateau Lafite Rothschild wine vintage 1869 was sold for $26,000 whereas a 2023 vintage sold for only $539.00. The 1869 vintage would have been a prize for the collector, who would adore it because of its age
Antiques are admired because of their age – so the same should apply to you. Are you satisfied with who you are? You can change how you look but you can’t change your age, you can do many things in this new age but you cannot change your expiration date. You can attempt to cheat Father Time, but he will always be the winner. Learn to love thy self for there is no comparison to the inward or outward beauty you possess.
So don’t attempt to reinvent yourself with multiple surgical procedures instead embrace yourself. Be thankful that you are alive, it’s a blessing. Those wrinkles are badges of honor wear them with pride. You are older but you are beautiful- understand how valuable you are. When you know self, you will look in the mirror and love thy self!!!! With age you are evolving into a masterpiece.
Many people view sex as a light switch that they turn on and off whenever they choose, they never consider the cost involved until they are presented with a crisis that unfolds in their life and they aren’t prepared for the consequences. Relationships end sometimes leaving you with anger, misery or pain – or sometimes all three.
Some believe that abstinence from sex is only for people who are religious or spiritual but I don’t believe it’s limited to your religious conviction. I see it as a person’s choice, however I believe many are influenced by society norms and face it Americans norms have changed drastically.
You could plow through many partners before finding that gem in the grass. Well you have options – take a test drive on each new model or just use that light switch when you have a fancy to let your physical emotions lock down your self control? You are always in the driver’s seat – it’s your vehicle.
There are times I find it very difficult to focus. I feel as though I’m floating in a storm. The waves rush against my body, filling my lungs with salt water as I struggle to breathe . I search to find land and the energy to propel my arms to stroke and swim to a dry spot.
I close my eyes and take deep breaths, one, two and three. I focus my thoughts and fill my lungs with positive energy that allows me to swim toward all the challenges of a new day. I know my intentions and goals will allow me to harness my energy. I am now in control of today.
A cup of black coffee is just a cup of coffee, but when you add a teaspoon of confidence, courage, compassion. Stir in creativity, character, and top it off with a bit of charisma. Now close your eyes and take a sip.
Now, this cup of coffee will take you places you never imagined and with so many possibilities to explore.
They say a picture is worth a thousand words – I say not so. A picture doesn’t say much about the person – you must listen to what they say – what they actually are saying to you. Those words are more valuable than a picture since they tell the story from beginning to end. A person’s words are a gateway to who they really are.
What is happiness? I ask myself this question over and over again. When life appears bleak or I’m faced with insurmountable problems – I find myself wondering where is happiness and how do I find it? I view people around me – hear their laughter and see their smiles and it appears as they know what it is, but having a good time and enjoying life is only one fragment of being happy. I think sometimes people confuse happiness with enjoyment. Ample money, vacations, being surrounded by people may be how one person associates it but another person may not have material things but they are happy being with family, enjoying a simple meal. Happiness is our own truth and since it grows from within – we must claim it alone.
ARE YOU HAPPY??
I’m alone although I am immersed in a place filled with people. I hear their voices but their words separate me from them. An invisible bridge alienates me. I dare not climb it as much as I desire to become a part – my intention is to embrace who I am.
What is it to be a good mother? There isn’t a manual that provides you with the precise steps to be a successful mother. No, it’s trial and error and hoping along the way it doesn’t become a disaster. Over the years of being a mother there was always a lesson to be learned and sometimes even from my children.
Unfortunately your first born sometimes serves as your test run, they are a part of your vital education for being a mother – so trial and errors begin. Mountains of errors before you walk on flat ground. At times the oldest will even point out , “You never treated me like that?”
There isn’t anything simple when you teach a child yes and no because some children are very inquisitive and ask why? I think this is very exasperating at times when it’s always why instead of yes. Babies are relatively easy to handle since they do not challenge you, but a toddler can be overwhelming. Incessant chatter, demolition of the house and of course, they love to say no! It’s easy to comfort them when they fall, you kiss them and give them many hugs. You tell them you love them and they never question that love – quite different when they get older.
As they grow you begin to try to mold them into individuals that would grow up to be productive human beings, yet you want them to be unique. They are your shining stars and with every achievement your heart swells with pride, and you think they aren’t ordinary but very special. You live vicariously through your children and think just maybe they will do everything you hoped for.
Along the road you travel with them, You teach them to respect others; self worth, discipline, and solid values. You guide them to walk that straight narrow and hope they won’t stray or compromise their belief system – or really it’s your belief system. You teach them not to lie or steal and you teach them that each action rather good or bad always comes with consequences. You hope these values sink into the core of their existence. And if you’re spiritual you stay in a positive realm – that your children will be fine. If you are religious your kids attend church and you hope they discover that having faith can sustain many disappointments that they may encounter in the future.
When you have to discipline your children – you hide your tears until you can cry in the privacy of your room because no parent ever wants to cause any discomfort by scolding the love of their life – you love your children relentlessly – they are the best of you. You choose your battles carefully because you carry such love for them. Sometimes you were too sharp with them, sometimes inpatient and even sometimes you were selfish and hoped they would occupy themselves whereas you would have time for yourself. Being a mother can become exhausting at times. All the many times you didn’t really listen because mothers too, become self absorbed in their own issues. After all contrary to what your growing children think you are not invincible – you are a human too and each day you are evolving in different ways just as they are.
The time comes when they are young adults and it tugs at your heart and you wonder where the years disappeared. However for you they will always be your babies. You marvel with their new found independence, you applaud their success and you weep when they fall short but you always tell them they have the power to succeed at whatever their endeavors will be.
Motherhood was a challenge and along the way you wrote your own manual of the do’s and don’ts of being a mother. You made your share of mistakes and a few regrets that linger close. You carried them over the mountains sometimes with tears, but the laughter that followed was always abundant. You are so proud of your children who are now young adults. It was a pleasure to be their mother and you are forever indebted for the privilege of motherhood..
Another gloomy day – the sun has hidden behind the clouds. However you own the magic to carry that sunlight within your heart. Allow the sun to shine and light up your life. Smile and feel the energy of those powerful rays – you are alive!!!!
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